There are some pretty cruel people out in there in the world that think their funny and pretty clever when they hurl insults at fat people about their weight.

I personally have been called all sorts of names in the past such as;

• fatty
• pig
• lard ass
• rolly polly

and many other names by total strangers and so called friends who tried to hurt me with their insults. It use to make me feel very sad and depressed until I turned it around and no longer did it bother me in the slightest.

Lets be honest, we are all human and have feelings. Some of use are more susceptible to peoples insults and take it to heart and yet others let insults just roll off like water on a ducks back and don’t give it another thought.

Two examples on overcoming the fat insults when walking away is just not an option.

Example: 1 Some so called friend or stranger calls you fat straight to your face

Response 1: “Oh my god, I’m fat? No? When did this happen? Wow your so smart, thanks for letting me know. After all these years I thought I was a size 0″

Example 2: Cowards yell out at you ‘hey you fat pig’ whilst they drive by

Response 1: “crack up laughing and clap with a big smile on your face”

Response 2: “put your hand up by your ear and make out you didn’t hear them”

Ways To Respond

• Walk away
• Use light hearted sarcasm
• Smile and laugh it off

If you are being abused at work or home with insults, then start standing up for yourself because no one else will. Being in a unsavory environment and having unsavory people around you, is not going to help you achieve your weightloss goal.

Here are some choices you can make to change your work environment;

1. Report insulter/s appropriately to management (when being insulted and bullied at work)
2. Go find another job
3. Start being smart by either using sarcasm or laughing and smiling (walking away obviously hasn’t worked because their still insulting you with fat jokes)

Here are some choices you can make to change your home environment;

1. Move out
2. Start standing up for yourself by either using sarcasm or laughing and smiling at them to show what they have just said is ridiculous
3. End toxic relationships with the so called friend/s and family who are insulting you instead of supporting you
4. If it’s your house, then kick the person who’s insulting you out.

If you insult the person by calling them names in response to their insults, then you are playing their game. You will feel better and they will feel defeated when you don’t buy into their insulting tactics.

You don’t have to use the tactic of laughing at the fat jokes and agree to hide your true feelings that the jokes have actually hurt your feelings. If you think the joke is truly funny and doesn’t offend you, then laugh to your hearts content.

Judge how you will respond appropriately to the situation as your safety is paramount. Walk away from any violent situation to somewhere safe and get help immediately if you need it. Now go out there and take charge of your own destiny and don’t give other people the power to decide how you are going to feel and how your going to be treated by them.

When your on the fat loss journey you will come up against evil temptations such as cream doughnuts, chocolate cake, fish n chips, lollies, sausage rolls, pizza, buffets and more!

So how do you resist temptation and continue to build on your will power to say no to all those evils?

Well it’s simple, just empower your mind.

Empowering Your Mind Is Key

When you see the fat foods remember this;

The fat foods will always be there. They were there before you were born and will still be there long after you’ve gone through the pearly golden gates.

Change the way you think – Mind over food realities.

• You can’t beat the fat food temptations by merely avoiding, hiding or running away from them. They are everywhere in many different shapes, sizes and flavors. Acknowledge that  they are there and carry on as you normally do. You need to learn to live side by side with them without taking any notice of them.
• If you think you have to eat the fatty foods because you were raised not to waste food, well you can stop that way of thinking right now!
  • You can’t eat all the junk food in the world so it doesn’t go to waste. It’s impossible.
  • There are 1000’s of food manufacturers that work 24/7 producing unhealthy fatty foods and create tonnes of food wastage every day
  • You can’t think that there are starving children in Africa so you better be grateful and eat everything you see. You can’t save the world’s hunger problems. The children in Africa will still remain in the same situation regardless if you ate the fatty foods or not.

• KFC, Mcdonald’s, Taco Bell and Star Bucks will still be there after you have reached your weightloss goal and are looking totally hot. They’ll still be pumping out plenty of drumsticks and shakes. So don’t think your missing out if you don’t eat the chicken drumstick right now.
• By the time you have lost the weight, your mind will be so empowered that you will have forgotten about wanting to eat the chicken drumstick covered in fatty oil or having that tub of ice cream.

So remember, it’s all in the mind and how you think. Realize the reality and empower yourself to succeed.

Taking the step of joining a gym can be a long an arduous decision. Let’s look at some of those reasons why.

5 reasons why people don’t join the gym

1. Fear of other men & women giving disapproving judgmental looks
2. Fear of not knowing how the gym equipment work
3. Fear of breaking the equipment
4. Not being able to afford the gym membership
5. Not being able to buy or find an outfit for the gym that looks good

There is only one reason in the above list that I think is valid and that is;

Not being able to afford the gym membership

All the other reasons I find to be excuses so you don’t have to join the gym and therefore give yourself an excuse for your expected weightloss failure.

If you have already thought a myriad of excuses going into your weightloss plan, then you have already setup and expectation for yourself to fail your fat fight.

If you have done this, then your going to stay fat and get fatter until you change the way you think and start setting yourself up for success.

Now you can get a lot of exercise done and save a lot of money by doing 2 things;

• Walking
• Using your home as your gym

You should be walking already and now ready to add a bit more exercise to your regime. IF you haven’t started pounding the pavements, then you should go back and read my post on walking called walking the footpath with confidence and get started with walking.

8 areas of your home you can convert into gym space

• Lounge room
• Kitchen or Dining room
• Bedroom and Balcony area
• Garage, Attic or Basement area

16 items you can use as gym equipment

• chairs and tables
• television to do exercises through wii and dvd’s
• cans of food and shopping bags for hand weights
• books and boxes for step ups
• spare tyres for cardio exercise
• bathroom towels for stretches
• wall for back and leg squats
• clothes line to walk around
• planks of wood to make bench press
• stairs for step ups and cardio
• sofa for leg presses and more

Now how do you use this stuff?

Here are a list of links to show you how you can use these items to put your gym together and a few other nifty ideas as well.  If you already have brought gym equipment then great, use them and start losing the fat. If not then get some ideas from the links and get your gym started.

There are also some ideas where you don’t need any equipment at all to exercise.

Links to exercising at home and making homemade gym equipment

Lance Breger – using the wall

Laurensfitness – using the lounge

Forgetgyms – homemade dip station

Men of use – using tyres

cie la vie – cans of food as handweights

how-to-exercise – chair and floor exercises

e-how – towel exercises

e-how – chair stands

e-how – equipment free exercises

about.com – using the door

Ross Training – Homemade exercise tools

It amazes me how many women and men don’t like jumping on the bathroom scales and finding out how much exactly they weigh.

2 Fears Why People Don’t Weigh Themselves

• Knowing the truth will hurt too much
• Afraid they will brake the scales

If you truly want to stop being fat and start living in the hot sexy healthy body you always wanted, then you need to start facing up to the truth. If you can’t handle the truth when it comes to knowing how heavy you weigh, then you won’t have the strong state of mind that you need to lose the fat.

4 Steps To Face The Fear Of The bathroom Scales

1. Get bathroom scales
   • A large amount of fat people don’t own scales. For those who do, they hide them away where it can’t be seen and therefore never have to be used.
2. Make the scales visible
   • Don’t hide them away in the bathroom cupboard and pull them out when it’s time to weight yourself. Even if you have visitors to your home, don’t hide them away. Keep the scales visible at all times no matter what the circumstances.
3. Place the scales in front of a mirror
   • If you have a full length mirror or just a small mirror above the sink, place the scales in front of it.
   • You want to see yourself when you are on the scales and empower yourself to see the reality and constantly remind yourself of the future you.
4. Measure yourself
   • Get a measuring tape to go with the scales. The scales can show you how much you weigh but can’t show you how many inches you have lost.
   • Inches lost is as equally important as weight loss.

Realize the true purpose of the scales

• Their objective is to help you lose weight .
• They give you clear goals on how much weight you need to lose.
• They tell you exactly how you are progressing so you can reach your goal.
• They are the first to tell you that you have made it to your goal.
• They tell you only the truth
• They don’t lie in wait to judge you

If the scales aren’t big enough for you, then go seek out help to find one that you can use.

You can’t break the scales. You can only have more digits than the scales. If this is the case, then you have a set goal already, which is to lose weight to measure yourself on a standard bathroom scale. This is a good goal to have as we all have to start somewhere. You can achieve! Just believe and do it!

Now it’s time to stop being afraid of the bathroom scales and see that it is actually a fantastic tool that will empower you to lose weight. Being scared of the dark is valid. Being scared of the scales is just hindering your weight loss goal.

Are you one of those people who come up with a thousand excuses but no real reason?

5 Excuses Of Why Your Not Losing Weight

1. You work long hours – No time to eat properly
2. You have a family and their needs come first
3. The fat run’s in the family – It’s a genetic thing
4. You can’t afford to pay for good healthy food
5. You can’t afford to pay for a gym membership

Now I know that there are some very valid medical reasons why a small percentage of people can’t lose the fat but I’m not going to list them here because I don’t want you to think you can use these reasons as part of your excuses on why you haven’t lost the fat.

After all, the aim is to empower you to lose the fat and not keep it on.

There are essentially 4 high level reasons why you’re not losing the fat.

4 Reasons why your not losing the fat

• The psychological – the way you think
• The exercise – the thought of the pain
• The social aspect – it matters what other people think
• The diet – fear of starvation

As you can see, what clearly stands out is one common theme in the list which appears to attach itself in the 4 valid reasons and that common theme is;

the way you think

So when we really get down to it, after all the toiling of why you can’t lose the fat, it happens to come down to 1 real reason and it’s the way you think.

Now that you know this, take up the challenge to change to empower yourself to lose the weight. When you change the way you think, you will change many things about yourself like your bad habits, your fears, your denials, the way you see yourself and more.

This can only be a positive thing even though I am sure you will feel some emotional pain whilst you are trying to change. Stay strong and go through the process and keep your eye on the prize, which is to lose the fat and it will be well worth it. Can you do it? Yes you can!

A new you, in a new body, looking fabulous, healthy and totally feeling complete!

Being a fat bootycall is not fun. And YES, there are men out there that absolutely love rolling around the hay with fat women and can’t get enough.

But these men are the MINORITY not the MAJORITY.

We all have ‘needs’ and we all want to feel gorgeous, beautiful, vibrant and sexy with whoever it is we are spending intimate times with.

Picture this:

You meet a guy who is no where near the man of your dreams. He settles for a one night stand with you because he’s had no luck with the other ladies. So basically you were his last choice but he’s decided ’something is better than nothing’ so you’ll have to do.

Despite your better judgment, you take up his offer because you think no-one else will want to be with you as you are fat and so you’d better take what you can get. No other man has even given you a glance let alone a second look.

Now picture this:

• He insists on going back to yours not his
• Conversation is non existent
• He turns off the light and makes sure it’s completely dark
• He refuses to look you in the eye
• He definitely doesn’t want to kiss you
• He gets down to business without touching you
• He finishes his business and makes a b-line for the door
• You are left there unsatisfied, lonely and feeling disheartened

So this is one of a thousand scenario’s out there where fat women and men come across at some stage in their life and maybe more so for some than others. Who really wants to go through all this pain because it is pain. And the sad thing is that people do treat other people like this just because they are fat.

Let’s face it, being a fat bootycall doesn’t give you a wide range of options and that is the key word OPTIONS.

Having options lets you;

• Become the decision maker
• Decide who you want to be intimate with
• Have the choice to say NO and not have a care in the world
• Become the number 1 choice for the opposite sex
• Make the rules of engagement
• Become the sexy, vibrant person you want to be
• Have the opposite sex begging for more of you

so how do you get these options?

Well you know how. Lose the bulge, fat, tyres, lard, whatever you want to call it, you have to lose it if you want these options. Easier said than done I know but that’s life and no excuse. So go lose it.

There are a million websites out there that will tell you how to eat properly and exercise to lose the weight. There are lots of books out there too that will also help you in your quest.

Skoozap won’t bore you with all of that warm and fuzzy information. Instead Skoozap will just tell you like it is in the hope that you can take something away from it to help you lose the bulge.

Here is a list of those evil temptations;

• Vending Machine
• Cafeteria
• Chocolate & Lolly Fundraiser Boxes
• Staff Birthday Celebrations
• Morning Tea Meetings
• Lunch Meetings
• Afternoon Tea Meetings
• Dinner Meetings
• Team Lolly Jar
• Kitchen Biscuit Tin
• The Friends Who Offer Snacks
• Training Catering morning/lunch/afternoon
• Monthly/Quarterly Yearly Award Celebrations
• Christmas Office Parties

That’s one big list. Did you ever think that there were so many temptations at your workplace.

It’s like walking through a landmine to some people and sometimes it’s so tempting that that they give up the fight and walk straight to the landmines.

Well never fear, here is another list that will help you resist the temptations around you.

3 Ways To Resist Workplace Catering

1. Put a trinket, photo, or note on your desk
   • These things will help remind yourself that your on a diet. The diet that is helping you get the body you’ve always wanted and be the person you always wanted to be.
2. Make sure your always busy
   • Don’t get bored or else you will mostly likely stray from your goal.
   • Go for a walk or chat to a friend
   • Surf the internet and find stuff that will motivate you to lose weight. Perhaps surf through some websites about dating, fashion and celebrity news. These websites will help you realize your dream because they represent some of the reasons why you are on a diet.
3. Think of how fat you will remain if you eat those temptations
   • If you eat the temptation, then you are eating away your dream goal of losing weight and looking hot.
   • There are going to be plenty of chocolate and other fat foods after you lose the weight. The temptations aren’t going away anytime soon. So you might as start working on the way you think and tell yourself your not going to starve if you don’t eat the chocolate bar or bag of chips.

You step out and start walking and before you even get around the corner, someone yells out in the comfort of their moving car ‘hey you fat ass!’.

Sound familiar?

If your one of those people who have had this experience and have decided to never exercise in public again for the rest of your life, don’t feel this way and overcome the fear.

If your one of those people who refused to exercise in public in the first place, purely to avoid rude comments, then here are some tips to help you become more confident exercising in public.

3 Ways To Overcome The Fear Of Exercising In Public

1. Exercise Early In The Morning
   • The people who yell out rude comments whilst your exercising are usually male, young and travel in packs. They will probably still be fast asleep in their beds by the time you have finished your walk and had a hot shower. So you won’t have to worry about these moron’s anymore.
2. Listen To Music Whilst Exercising
   • Before heading out for your morning walk around the block, take your ipod with you and listen to funky, uplifting and inspiring music. Music that puts images in your mind where you can see yourself looking hot, gorgeous and irresistible.
   • With your earphones on and listening to cool music, you can block out the world and exercising becomes more fun than you expected.
3. Don’t Bother Trying To Hide Your Fat
   • Wearing big baggy t-shirts whilst walking around the block, just makes you look fatter than you already are. People can already see that your fat, so you might as well just wear a t-shirt or outfit that doesn’t way you down, feels comfortable and fits well on you.
   • Tell yourself the truth. Your fat – People can see your fat – And your doing something about it. People have respect for other people who are trying to work hard towards bettering themselves. In saying that, who cares what strangers think. They don’t pay your bills, so get out there and start pounding the pavement and remember the end goal.

You get up in the morning and have next to nothing for breakfast. You start deciding what your going to have for a healthy lunch. You decide and pack it away in your bag and set off to work.

10am is coming around and the hunger pangs start. Your stomach starts making rumbling noises and you walk past the vending machine. You start having internal conflicts with yourself. Should I? One won’t hurt surely? Your skinny friend pulls out a snickers bar and proceeds to eat it like she’s never eaten before.

You head towards your desk draw and pull out your lunch and the rest is history. Sound familiar to you?

Well here’s a list to help you get through the temptation.

5 Ways To Stop Eating Your Lunch By 10am

1. For starters, don’t starve yourself at breakfast
   • Having a piece of dry toast is not breakfast
   • There a plenty of diet books out there that can give you some great ideas for a healthy breakfast
2. Don’t forget to pack a 10am snack
   • Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner is not going to work. If it had, you wouldn’t be reading this.
   • So gear yourself up and take a healthy snack for 10am and 3pm
3. Keep walking past the vending machine
   • You heard right. It’s not going to go away so it’s time to change your way of thinking and not change the path your taking to avoid the vending machine
   • Empower yourself to succeed in resisting temptation and reprogram they way you think. This way you will no longer have those internal conflicts about cheating on your diet and ultimately be able to buy any clothing you want.
4. Don’t be jealous of your skinny friends
   • Watch them eat away all those calories and be thankful that it isn’t you doing it.
   • Think of the future and picture yourself looking hotter than your skinny friends.
5. Put your lunch away from easy access
   
   • Put your lunch in the fridge or leave it with a friend. Don’t leave it in your desk draw.
   • Think of the fridge as the cafeteria. Like a cafeteria, it doesn’t open up for business until your scheduled lunch break has come around.

5 simple easy was to stop eating your lunch by 10am. Trust yourself that you really are stronger than fat that is clinging desperately to your thighs and butt!

Batting up to the plate to take on the giant task of beating the bulge is a long hard battle and for a lot of people just like me, it can be a long life battle!

7 Reasons Take On The Battle Of The Bulge

1. Be more attractive to the opposite sex
2. Ability to buy any clothes you want
3. Look hot in anything you wear
4. Make new friends in different social circles
5. Have a healthier body means a longer healthier life
6. Walk around with even more confidence
7. Look hot in a bikini

3 Negative Reasons Why YOu should Lose the bulge

1. Stop men giving those disapproval ‘looks; they give to fat people
2. Stop women giving those disapproval ‘looks’ they give to fat people
3. End the social discrimination just because your overweight

Let’s face it, life is better when you are not overweight and fat for many more reasons than what I have listed.

Remind yourself why you want to lose weight and use those reasons to empower yourself to beat the battle of the bulge.